Just so you all know not all agencies/dispatchers are as ignorant as that one. Last November I was in a similar situation-fortunately I did not have to shoot the suspect. He had a knife, was in my front entry, luckily for him I was able to talk him out of the knife (persuaded by the muzzle view of my Kimber). The Washington county dispatcher actually wanted me to keep the suspect contained until the sniper and entry team could get into good covering positions outside my house. Once I KNEW that the suspect was being covered by weapons (albeit from outside the windows) and only then did the dispatcher ask, did I safe my weapon. Had she asked before then I would have politely (yeah right) refused. Kudos to Washington county deputies for also not making out as the "bad guy" for keeping my family safe via my pistol. My prayers go out to that family having to be put through all that drama.
I know those Washington County boys, they are good people.