Guns and Marriage

[RicInOR]

Longer story, might help with those family discussions around a holiday fest.
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Sometimes the gun set me at ease. A few weeks after Andrew purchased it, someone pounded on the door at 2 a.m., and I felt a swell of warmth as Andrew roused and moved toward the nightstand. When Andrew discovered the intruder was a friend walking home drunk from a bar, I was embarrassed. I'd felt real affection for the gun, for my husband as he reached for it without hesitation. I knew he was thinking far more of me than of himself; or, more likely, he was not thinking at all. I saw, in that moment, how love and violence are inextricable for him, linked not by philosophy or ideology, but by instinct. Maybe it is like that for all of us. We fiercely defend, of course, what we love.
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[DB is Here]

When I got married, the last thing my new wife wanted in the house was a gun, mainly as she hadn't been brought up with them. Two years into our marriage we brought our first bundle of joy home and my protective instincts made me realize that the most effective tool to protect my family was a gun, much like a shovel is the best tool to dig a trench. So I went to my LGS and purchased my first gun, a .40SW Sigma. When I brought it home my wife was less than joyed with the thought of a firearm in the house and told me not to bring it into our home.

I told her it was my job to protect her and our new family and how I chose to do that was 100% my call. It was a tense two minutes, but in the end, she realized I was right. I've told this story a few times, sorry to those that have already read it.

 

[Certaindeaf]

Sounds like she's getting a Peloton exercise bike for Christmas.

 

[P7M13]

If she had ever known of their existence, I'm pretty sure my first wife would have used them on me. Especially when she demanded I get rid of my guns or she would walk. I waited a long pause (>10 seconds) to respond.
My present wife has expressed her admiration that I was always transparent and held zero compromise about my guns, their purpose and use thereof.

 

[CRBMoA]

No guns in the house for the first 25 years. She did not grow up around guns.

This year, she told me to buy bullets from her for Christmas.

 

[Alexx1401]

My Wife learned to shoot after we started dating. She liked it but was not much into it. She did gripe now and then about how many I had back when we had a handful. Then one night while I was at work some drunk, and or drugged up kook showed up at the door pounding it like he was breaking in. When I got home she of course had one of the guns with her and she suddenly did not have any problems with the cost of them. When the kook woke everyone up she herded the kids into one room with her and a gun while she called dial a prayer. Having that gun in her hand made her feel like she was totally in control while she waited for the Calvary to get there. BTW they got there in record time when the operator asked her "are you armed?". I had told her before that if this happened the answer that you are armed moves your call to the front of the line.

 

[bbbass]

Marry me, marry my guns...

I wouldn't want a woman that was opposed to gun ownership... no matter what... firearms ownership to me is an indisposable part of life and citizenship. Necessary for many reasons and enjoyable/useful as tools to assist her and I in hobbies of hunting, target shooting, plinking, etc.

I don't care how good the lovin is... people need to choose spouses based on several needed compatibilities/philosophies.

In no particular order:

#1. Money
#2. Kids
#3. Religion
#4. Political ie; conservative, libertarian, liberal, socialist, leftist, etc
#5. Home ownership
#6. Investing/saving
#7. Firearms ownership
#8. Self defense, home defense
#9. Common interests/hobbies
#10. Sobriety

 

[11Charlie]

Wy wife is great. She needs to become more proficient with them but that is a work in progress.

 

[Alexx1401]

Marry me, marry my guns...

I wouldn't want a woman that was opposed to gun ownership... no matter what... firearms ownership to me is an indisposable part of life and citizenship. Necessary for many reasons and enjoyable/useful as tools to assist her and I in hobbies of hunting, target shooting, plinking, etc.

I don't care how good the lovin is... people need to choose spouses based on several needed compatibilities/philosophies.

In no particular order:

#1. Money
#2. Kids
#3. Religion
#4. Political ie; conservative, libertarian, liberal, socialist, leftist, etc
#5. Home ownership
#6. Investing/saving
#7. Firearms ownership
#8. Self defense, home defense
#9. Common interests/hobbies
#10. Sobriety

I have ended dating several women over the years because they had a problem with guns. When one made it clear that they would never have a gun in their home I made it clear I was not going to their home. That when they stayed at mine there was a gun. I would never have gotten anything close to serious with one of the anti gun ones.

 

[MannyGlocks]

"Marry me, marry my guns... "

That's beautiful!!

...and darn tootin.

 

[Cavedweller]

Well, if you ever wondered what goes on in the mind of a neurotic New York liberal female, it's all right there.

WARNING TO SINGLE YOUNG MEN: Run from women like this as fast as you can!

 

[bbbass]

I have ended dating several women over the years because they had a problem with guns. When one made it clear that they would never have a gun in their home I made it clear I was not going to their home. That when they stayed at mine there was a gun. I would never have gotten anything close to serious with one of the anti gun ones.

My wife was a hunter/fisher... that was an integral part of the attraction. Early on, before she gave it up, she was my deer hunting partner. Hunted with a sporterized M1 carbine that she had when I met her. We also fished every kind of fish we could. And danced away the weekends we weren't out in the woods or at some lake or river.

A true partnership. We just happened to agree on the other things I listed. Talk about compatibility! We argue about the small things, but never the larger issues in life... like whether I need another pistol (not really).

 

[Alexx1401]

My wife was a hunter/fisher... that was an integral part of the attraction. Early on, before she gave it up, she was my deer hunting partner. Hunted with a sporterized M1 carbine that she had when I met her. We also fished every kind of fish we could. And danced away the weekends we weren't out in the woods or at some lake or river.

A true partnership. We just happened to agree on the other things I listed. Talk about compatibility! We argue about the small things, but never the larger issues in life... like whether I need another pistol (not really).

The uncle who introduced me to hunting found his mate late in life. He took me to an NRA sponsored safety course so I could get my first license. Course was taught over multiple classes at a local grade school. Can you see that happening now? Passed the course so I could get my first license and he bought me my first shotgun. Man I had fun hunting with him. His wife had ZERO interest in hunting and fishing with him. They got divorced after almost 20 years. He married a gal who had never shot, hunted or fished. She joined us in all of it. She soon could pop a Quail. Learned to catch Bass. Gal made the last half of his life great. She encouraged him to get a nice Bass boat and loved to go spend several days at the lake with him, going out to fish every day. I suspect he often thought he should have looked longer the first time he got married

 

[bbbass]

The uncle who introduced me to hunting found his mate late in life. He took me to an NRA sponsored safety course so I could get my first license. Course was taught over multiple classes at a local grade school. Can you see that happening now? Passed the course so I could get my first license and he bought me my first shotgun. Man I had fun hunting with him. His wife had ZERO interest in hunting and fishing with him. They got divorced after almost 20 years. He married a gal who had never shot, hunted or fished. She joined us in all of it. She soon could pop a Quail. Learned to catch Bass. Gal made the last half of his life great. She encouraged him to get a nice Bass boat and loved to go spend several days at the lake with him, going out to fish every day. I suspect he often thought he should have looked longer the first time he got married

Much the same for me. My first wife was merely a pretty face. Not really compatible, but sigh, I was young and inexperienced.

 

[Member 5605]

Wy wife is great. She needs to become more proficient with them but that is a work in progress.

Same here.

 

[bbbass]

The uncle who introduced me to hunting found his mate late in life. He took me to an NRA sponsored safety course so I could get my first license. Course was taught over multiple classes at a local grade school. Can you see that happening now? Passed the course so I could get my first license and he bought me my first shotgun. Man I had fun hunting with him. His wife had ZERO interest in hunting and fishing with him. They got divorced after almost 20 years. He married a gal who had never shot, hunted or fished. She joined us in all of it. She soon could pop a Quail. Learned to catch Bass. Gal made the last half of his life great. She encouraged him to get a nice Bass boat and loved to go spend several days at the lake with him, going out to fish every day. I suspect he often thought he should have looked longer the first time he got married

Great story! I'm glad for all of you!!!

After my Grandson's stepdad decided he was a woman, I tried to mentor the kid. Thought I could be like your Uncle. Bought him a "Mossy". But we only went out once before he started shining me on. He really could have used a good influence in his life, because w/o it he wound up going to jail and is now pretty much a useless little sch!t. Bad story there.

 

[RedRover]

Wife is a better pistol shot than me, but she grew up around them, and as such, she had a head start.

So when the time came to quit renting and buy. It was a no-brainer.

There are some 'me-things/my time' that I understand the wife not to love. IE. football. However, when it comes to firearms, the only real beef is: "How many do I really need?" and "But, honey, I got a great deal on the ammo".

 

[Hueco]

I have ended dating several women over the years because they had a problem with guns. When one made it clear that they would never have a gun in their home I made it clear I was not going to their home. That when they stayed at mine there was a gun. I would never have gotten anything close to serious with one of the anti gun ones.

How many times do we have to say it?

 

[bbbass]

How many times do we have to say it?

Rabbis are practical men!

 

[CountryGent]

How many times do we have to say it?

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If I heard that sermon earlier in life, it could have saved a lot of trouble. I think.

Anyway, as to the original point, it is a nonissue in our home. The wife has always been fine with firearms in the house and is a shooter herself. Come to think of it, she knew I was carrying concealed during our courtship and appreciated said. She doesn't go out as often as I do, but certainly likes being armed and doing shooting on the home range.