Wow! I can't believe that it has been 38 years already!

[PinkhamR]

We met the week before Christmas, in 1974, at McGuire AFB in New Jersey. We were married on the 29th of March in 1975. My Commander, at that time, felt that there was no way it would last. I was able to get in contact with him last year and let him know that all was very well.

We are now both retired from the U.S. Air Force ..... I spent 23 years on active duty while my wife (Linda) spent 24 years on active duty.

In this era of short, multiple, or no marriages, I find it comforting to know that we found each other and knew immediately that it would work for us.

I can only hope that there are still many years ahead of us ...... Linda Irene Pinkham - I Love You!

That was 'Then'




This is 'Now'​

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[lazerblazer]

Congratulations keep fighting the good fight you two!

-LazerblazeR

 

[Swedish K]

Congrats! hope you both enjoy many more years together!

 

[salmonriverjohn]

Admirable service in all regards. Congratulations to the both of you.

 

[Oathkeeper1775]

Heck, you might as well go ahead and consider a permanent relationship.................

Any words of wisdom for those of us who haven't-yet passed the 32 year threshold?

 

[ejmpnu92]

Rock on Pink!!

 

[BAMCIS]

Pinkham you made my day. Thanks.

I also have a March 29th anniversary. I share that with my now ex-wife. After a very intimate evening celebrating our 20th anniversary, she informed me she filed for divorce a few days prior. A few eeks later I learned she met her now 2nd ex-husband on christiansingles.com.

It all worked out in the end. The woman who is now my wife thinks I walk on water. She hates not catching fish, running out of ammo, loves, college football and NASCAR. Doesn't spend money like it's going out of style. To top that off, my kids are closer to her than they are to the woman who gave birth to them.

And from a former Marine, thank you and Mrs. Pinkham for your service. Semper Fi!

 

[Burt Gummer]

Nowadays, only a male fool would get married. There is no benefit for the man whatsoever unless you are vain and need to pump out carbon copies of yourself. Even then, statistically speaking, she'll eventually leave and take those with her also.

Now the OP is the man bites dog scenario. Congratulations to him. But he is like the person that picked the winning lotto ticket. Should you emulate him and go by your own ticket(s) - no.

Not the norm. Plus it was 38 years ago. Women were not the dream killers and soul suckers 38 years ago that they are now.

If you can be happy and be single, by all means, DO NOT get married. (Speaking to men here). Ignore all the married people who want you to join their club, the family pressure to be married; it is like a misery cult. They want you to enjoy the nagging, the debt, the no sex.

Pass on it.

"Kids - it will ruin your life, drain your bank account, leave you miserable, depressed, and just a shell of what you could have been ..... kids .... just say no to marriage." - Al Bundy speaking to Cub Scouts. "A married man is like an indoor house cat looking out through the window at what he could have been."

 

[salmonriverjohn]

Jezz Burt, I've been happily married for 33 years to my best friend and wouldn't trade her for anything. She's taken more Elk than most men I know, doesn't need me around when it comes time to quarter and pack, skin or butcher either. She's a great mother/Grandmother, cooks a heck of a meal and still knocks em dead and turns heads when were out on the town. And another thing, they didn't just make these two wonderful ladies were talking about and throw the mold away, their out there Burt. You may want to reevaluate your perception of that "all woman" idea of yours. Just because you've had a sour set on you doesn't mean their all bad, perhaps it's just you and your run of bad luck? Just saying Burt.

 

[BVB]

congrats Pink, right behind you with 32 and still kickin

 

[Bajablast]

Congratulations!!!! Many more years of wedded bliss to Mrs Pinkham and Her Husband Mr Pinkham.

Way to go, you 2 are truly role models.



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[Black Dog]

Jezz Burt, I've been happily married for 33 years to my best friend and wouldn't trade her for anything. She's taken more Elk than most men I know, doesn't need me around when it comes time to quarter and pack, skin or butcher either. She's a great mother/Grandmother, cooks a heck of a meal and still knocks em dead and turns heads when were out on the town. And another thing, they didn't just make these two wonderful ladies were talking about and throw the mold away, their out there Burt. You may want to reevaluate your perception of that "all woman" idea of yours. Just because you've had a sour set on you doesn't mean their all bad, perhaps it's just you and your run of bad luck? Just saying Burt.

Please reread Burts third (3) statement. NOT THE NORM.

 

[Black Dog]

Looking good, and a happy many-many more years.

 

[Kruel J]

Congrats to you both!!

 

[PMB]

Nowadays, only a male fool would get married. There is no benefit for the man whatsoever unless you are vain and need to pump out carbon copies of yourself. Even then, statistically speaking, she'll eventually leave and take those with her also.

Now the OP is the man bites dog scenario. Congratulations to him. But he is like the person that picked the winning lotto ticket. Should you emulate him and go by your own ticket(s) - no.

Not the norm. Plus it was 38 years ago. Women were not the dream killers and soul suckers 38 years ago that they are now.

If you can be happy and be single, by all means, DO NOT get married. (Speaking to men here). Ignore all the married people who want you to join their club, the family pressure to be married; it is like a misery cult. They want you to enjoy the nagging, the debt, the no sex.

Pass on it.

"Kids - it will ruin your life, drain your bank account, leave you miserable, depressed, and just a shell of what you could have been ..... kids .... just say no to marriage." - Al Bundy speaking to Cub Scouts. "A married man is like an indoor house cat looking out through the window at what he could have been."

I can't help it... the laughter... I just had tears running down my face as I got to the end of Burt's post.

I know it wasn't intended as humor, but the placement, delivery and timing of this is absolutely priceless.

Mostly true too, probably.

Oh, and Happy Anniversary Pinkham!

 

[Sling Blade]

Best wishes to you both!

 

[Burt Gummer]

Jezz Burt, I've been happily married for 33 years to my best friend and wouldn't trade her for anything.

Understood and congratulations, but like the OP you are the very rare exception to the rule. Plus 33 years ago is not the same as now.

Most American women now have all the depth and compassion of a Kim Kardashian. Plus, if you are marrying one due to looks/sex, remember they age like milk; we tend to age like wine. Our incomes, social status and wisdom increase with time.

What most women offer - superficial looks and even a happy personality - are a declining investment from day one.

I have talked to guys on here that have gone to foreign countries like Nicaragua to meet women, bring them here, and marry them. I guess that would be the far wiser course to take if you REALLY want to be married.

For me, absolutely not. I'd rather off myself than have to say 'honey, I'm home' every evening. I know that is just me, but that is the way it is .... expecting another person to change and learn as I do throughout my life would be unfair and frankly impossible.

I wasn't trying to belittle Pinkhammer's choice or accomplishment, he should definitely be applauded for making it work out for himself. Plus all of us are different and I am sure that there are some men that simply cannot be happy unless they are bonded/married. They are somehow 'incomplete.'

But like the lotto winner, or the guy that hit it big at the casino/stock market, they are the vocal ones. Vocal, but rare.

These successes are rare instances and should not be followed if you care at all about reality and statistics. 43% end in outright failure (would you invest in any other endeavor with that failure rate? - hopefully not) - a much larger percentage end in regret, boredom, captivity, cheating.

I should add here for the gullible men considering marriage - no, you did NOT find 'the exception to the rule' - "she's different' - etc, etc. - every guy contemplating marriage says those things to himself and his buddies to justify the poor choice they are about to make.

One in five fathers in the US are not really the father of the child they are raising believing it is their own for Christ's sake; that is their reward for being part of the American family unit.

In the vast majority of instances, for the American male, single is better.

Marriage is a very poor life investment for most men (unless you feel the need to breed out a copy or two and take on debt for life). Even in that case, you might want to shell out a couple hundred for a DNA test LOL.

 

[Mephistopheles]

It's cheaper to keep her.

 

[Mutoman]

Congrats!

Working on our 28th and hoping I last long enough to enjoy our 38th. It takes a lot of guts and work from both people to last this long. Many don't have it in them...

 

[Mutoman]

Nowadays, only a male fool would get married. There is no benefit for the man whatsoever unless you are vain and need to pump out carbon copies of yourself. Even then, statistically speaking, she'll eventually leave and take those with her also.

Now the OP is the man bites dog scenario. Congratulations to him. But he is like the person that picked the winning lotto ticket. Should you emulate him and go by your own ticket(s) - no.

Not the norm. Plus it was 38 years ago. Women were not the dream killers and soul suckers 38 years ago that they are now.

If you can be happy and be single, by all means, DO NOT get married. (Speaking to men here). Ignore all the married people who want you to join their club, the family pressure to be married; it is like a misery cult. They want you to enjoy the nagging, the debt, the no sex.

Pass on it.

"Kids - it will ruin your life, drain your bank account, leave you miserable, depressed, and just a shell of what you could have been ..... kids .... just say no to marriage." - Al Bundy speaking to Cub Scouts. "A married man is like an indoor house cat looking out through the window at what he could have been."

Funny, but mostly true. "We" (I use this word loosely because I do teach and set an example for my children) don't teach kids how to fight for things and how to avoid running away when things get tough. I don't necessarily believe that women are "dream killers" but I do think that many are being manipulated into women that no man could actually live with and men are being neutered to the point that it is difficult to distinguish them from females. I was lucky and will openly admit it. However, I have seen the struggles my boys have had with finding mates and I worry for them.