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Weird asking people for relationship advice in a place I usually go to to find killer deals on optics and parts lol. I'm at my wits end. I have been a pipe smoker and cigar smoker for years and smoke way too much. Never have been into cigarettes but with the rate I smoke, I am bound to get mouth cancer within the next ten years. Yet I can't/won't ever entirely secede because of my love of the hobby. Father in law got me hooked on real Swedish snus (not the crap Camel puts out) and since then it's helped me stop smoking as much. I had no plans of quitting snus but my wife found out I had been using snus behind her back for months and flew into a rage. For some reason she's okay with me partaking in something that will likely kill me but not okay with snus which, unlike dip, has been shown to be largely harmless. She made me quit the stuff at risk of ending the marriage. I am pissed and frankly wish I would have told her, "bye Felicia". It's one thing if she were to make me quit drinking, drugs, cigs, etc. but something that has been shown to be 99% harmless is ridiculous, especially if its helping me quit something that actually is detrimental to my health. I've appealed to her multiple times but she doesn't want me being "dependent" on something (sort of like her coffee consumption lol, the irony). Anyways, I am developing a strong feeling of resentment towards her for practically being strong-armed into complying with her wishes. I am being forced to quit something I have no desire to quit at all. Not only am I angry from nic withdrawal but I am angry because my wife is making me quit something I love. I can't even look her in the eye when she's talking to me I am so angry with her. I know I am addicted to snus but since its not killing me, I don't see anything wrong with it. There are many other things I am extremely resentful towards my wife for but won't bring them up here. This is just the icing on the cake. What should I do here? Tell her to shove it and leave if she wants or respect her wishes?