My wife went to a women's shooting class and tried a bunch of different pistols. She didn't like the subcompact, like the Sig P938 or the Ruger LC9 because their recoil is hard to manage in a little gun. She liked shooting 9mm from a full size better. Her favorite was the HK VP9. I'd like to have her try a Browning 1911-380 or Rock Island Baby Rock in .380 before we decide. They are both a little smaller and lighter than a full sized, but bigger than those tiny pistols. Plus I've heard recoil is really tame with them. Also, I'm a 1911 guy, and she'd love to be all matchy with me.