I hate to be the crudgmunchin on this topic but......
35 miles is a lot to ask from any handheld, I know those handie talkies claim 25 to 35 miles, but i have never seen one that will do it. maybe if you are working at high elevation with your house within line of sight wiht one of those hand held gmrs radios... You might have to go with vehicle mounted 100 watt radio, and a 100 watt base station with a fairly tall antenna. or you and your wife get your tech ham licenses then you can go 2 meter and have access to the whole west coast from a small handheld thru the peaks radio repeater system.
This.