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^^This, you are trying to make calls that aren't yours to make.
That's what I'm trying to avoid. I was shot by someone I took out shooting years ago because I didn't spend enough time preparing them. I don't want it to happen again.
I think I like the BB gun idea, I may try that. Thanks.
To me, it appears the OP is dealing with reality as it is, not in a condescending manner that could result a disaster waiting to happen.
It is a blessing that he can recognize and identify the potential problems.
I too, have the good fortune to have a smart and loving woman in my life.
But, she is not wired with the mindset needed to deal with firearms.
Best,
Gary
My wife often buys wine 'cause the label is "neat".I think your description was actually pretty good. And I would say that if she can't get behind the idea of learning firearms, really learning then maybe firearms aren't for her. And saying she likes a gun because of what color it is is fairly commonplace these days but still concerns lots of us gun owners that know better.
It took my wife a period of years to get used to shooting. Long story but she was probably in the same arena as yours with what she said as well. It was more girl centric snark than anything else.
We went to the range a bit, but it was the 25 yard range at TCGC. She was always freaked out by simply being there, added to the stress that she could only put one out of 5 shots on the paper.
Took her to a really good training class (after I went), and we both trained together. Learned the same way to handle a CCW pistol and gained the same vocabulary. Now we practice everything when we go to the range, because we learned it together. I learned to do things differently for the main reason that I could use the common ground to communicate with her. It worked very well.
The best trick was getting the pistol 2' from the dang paper so she could figure out her sights. Once that epiphany hit it was all downhill.
She'll never dry fire or practice regularly (or without me), but when I leave town the gun is on her nightstand and I'm comfortable that she knows how and when to use it.
*edit - It was Oregon Firearms Academy where we trained, but they closed to regular operations in 2016. Dan Abbot is amazing, he's a member here ( OFADan ) and sometimes pops up but I haven't seen him around lately. Not sure if they still offer any private training but the link is below. Ultimately I took a range buddy and both kids there too.
link - Oregon Fire Arms Academy
AirSoft.....AirSoft... People have been killed with B-B GunsI think I like the BB gun idea, I may try that. Thanks.
Well, it seems clear that YOU don't feel good about her handling/owning guns so I'd say that's the end of it. Why give a gun to anyone who you don't think would handle it safely?I'm getting back into shooting and my wife wants to shoot also. But I don't think she has what's needed to be a gun owner. It's a difficult thing to describe. She isn't detail oriented, doesn't care to know how things work, she just wants to use things, doesn't want to put any effort into anything unless it's the fun parts, if she does put in any effort, it's as little as possible, she doesn't read instructions or follow directions well. She has a hard time assembling anything or fixing something that comes apart. Almost like a lack of spatial awareness, I sometimes think if you gave her one of those tests of putting different shaped blocks into the proper holes, she would fail at it. A couple of specifics, we saw a gun on youtube and she wanted that one because she liked the color of it. Also I've been trying to do 5 minute training sessions in the evenings to get her familiar with a gun I have, how to load a magazine with ammo, put the magazine in the gun, work the slide, hold it, use the sights, just general familiarity and repetition on the 4 safety rules. She hasn't wanted to do any of that and recently said that she needs to just go shoot it.
All this has made me think there are more people, other than the usual and obvious set, that should not own guns. I know there are some obvious traits of those that shouldn't own guns, but I'm thinking there may be other less obvious traits, either by themselves or combined, that also mean someone shouldn't own a gun. I'm just having a hard time summing that up into a cohesive description. Any thoughts?
bubblegum, I'd go to war with that thing, pink is a man's colorView attachment 786580
My wife's a big fan of pink, and hello kitty, lol.
She can't shoot it worth a darn because of her extreme astigmatism, but I love her and had fun doing this project. So she likes to tell everyone about her cute pink gun even though she will probably never shoot it again, good on her. Give those gun grabbers a coronary.
Looks awesome on the firing line at the range! I gotta kill an animal with it, just for the lolz.
Except maybe an inkjet printer.Buy her an Air Soft and teach her how to use it in the garage.
For God's sake don't give her anything with live cartridges in it.
Groupthink is best think.A few people have asked me why I never carry , or even have a concealed carry permit. My reality is that the people I am likely to be with in a serious emergency are going to react poorly. So poorly that my having a live firearm is would put them in more danger, not increase our safety as a group.
A man's got to know his limitations.
Harry Callahan