I think you need to look at your own priorities. In fact, sorting them out is a very difficult thing for most of us, so we just bumble along till life ends at some point. For myself, I came to the conclusion that my life is a lot like a 3 legged stool. The 3 legs are Health, relationships and money. Those 3 are the foundations of importance. Without any one of those, I have imbalance. All the other parts of my life seem to fall under those major important headings so taking care of those 3 is critical for me. Yet when I really and truly consider it, health is the most important of the 3. Far and away the most. This is my own take, yours may be different. Without health, your ability to work (make $) and even your relationships get stressed and can go bad. A long time ago, I volunteered for years and later worked for $ up at the old VA hospital, rare was the person I saw in there that this was not true of as well. Health includes mental heath as well, and physical health can and will intrude up on your mental health, more so as time goes on and you have chronic pain. What's left when your mental health goes? Perhaps the only work you can do then is to be a politician? Who can say, but consider that.
As far as you both waking up with headaches at night, that almost seems like too much of a coincidence. On another thread, we were talking of Carbon Monoxide poisoning....have you looked at that? Maybe set up a tent in the back yard and go sleep in it some evening, and if you don't wake up with a headache consider some environmental issue. Certainly consider where the couch (that you sleep better on) is in relationship to your bedroom and also the heaters exhaust vis a vis fresh air infiltrating windows or doors. Hot damn, I finally got to use via a vis in a real sentence! Woot! I probably used it wrong
My kid had a job years back at one of those overpriced catalog stores (edited to add - it was the Sharper Image, I had brain fade) and we got an 80% discount on that well known brand of foam mattress setup. It was still shockingly over priced. But I sleep sooooo comfortable. I looked at it as in investment in health. Actually, my wife wanted it and told me we were getting it so I got the relationship thing covered with it's purchase too. I believe that many of the joint issues (leading to joint replacements of hips, knees etc etc) people have are from sleeping improperly. I know that for myself, I get excruciating back pain come onto me if I A)Sleep on my back B) Don't eat well and C) Have stress in my life. I can manage all 3 of those and with the chiropractors help, get back to normal. The pain was originally brought on from unloading a tractor trailer with 12,000# of 200 lb kegs of bolts by hand lifting when our forklift broke. I was young and strong...and stupid. When the pain comes, it's much worse than when I fell off the roof and landed face first onto a metal table. All that did was break my cheekbone so that the bone was sticking straight out of my face. I put a bandaid on it and climbed back up on the roof and got to work as it looked like it was going to rain. No, this back pain is much much more than that. It's hit so bad that I've dropped to my knees or right on the ground like a fish in the boat except I can't flop around, move or speak. I just lay there with teeth clenched in pain, I can't make a sound it hurts so bad. However, I could not ask others what to do, I had to figure it out over time what brought on this pain, and how to (mostly) avoid its re-occurrence.
So I can't give you any advice on this issue. It's taken me a long time to get myself figured out. I did click the "sell the guns and get a mattress" option though Figure you can always go by new guns later.
Good luck!
As far as you both waking up with headaches at night, that almost seems like too much of a coincidence. On another thread, we were talking of Carbon Monoxide poisoning....have you looked at that? Maybe set up a tent in the back yard and go sleep in it some evening, and if you don't wake up with a headache consider some environmental issue. Certainly consider where the couch (that you sleep better on) is in relationship to your bedroom and also the heaters exhaust vis a vis fresh air infiltrating windows or doors. Hot damn, I finally got to use via a vis in a real sentence! Woot! I probably used it wrong
My kid had a job years back at one of those overpriced catalog stores (edited to add - it was the Sharper Image, I had brain fade) and we got an 80% discount on that well known brand of foam mattress setup. It was still shockingly over priced. But I sleep sooooo comfortable. I looked at it as in investment in health. Actually, my wife wanted it and told me we were getting it so I got the relationship thing covered with it's purchase too. I believe that many of the joint issues (leading to joint replacements of hips, knees etc etc) people have are from sleeping improperly. I know that for myself, I get excruciating back pain come onto me if I A)Sleep on my back B) Don't eat well and C) Have stress in my life. I can manage all 3 of those and with the chiropractors help, get back to normal. The pain was originally brought on from unloading a tractor trailer with 12,000# of 200 lb kegs of bolts by hand lifting when our forklift broke. I was young and strong...and stupid. When the pain comes, it's much worse than when I fell off the roof and landed face first onto a metal table. All that did was break my cheekbone so that the bone was sticking straight out of my face. I put a bandaid on it and climbed back up on the roof and got to work as it looked like it was going to rain. No, this back pain is much much more than that. It's hit so bad that I've dropped to my knees or right on the ground like a fish in the boat except I can't flop around, move or speak. I just lay there with teeth clenched in pain, I can't make a sound it hurts so bad. However, I could not ask others what to do, I had to figure it out over time what brought on this pain, and how to (mostly) avoid its re-occurrence.
So I can't give you any advice on this issue. It's taken me a long time to get myself figured out. I did click the "sell the guns and get a mattress" option though
Figure you can always go by new guns later. Good luck!
