Relationships

[lazerblazer]

Times have been tough lately on my homefront, so I have been devoting some time to reset the foundation for love. Through my research i have found out about "IMAGO Relationship Therapy", has anyone heard of this type of therapy or had any experience. The Dr. who created the program has a book out by the name of "Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples" which is the basis of this therapy. I inted on going to Powells tomorrow and picking it up to give us more resources to work through these trying times. This past week has been a true test of my resolve, and I feel so far I am putting my best foot forward but want to give myself all the ammunition to succeed. If anyone has any advice, words of encouagement, or know of any great realtionship therapist in Portland please let me know.

-LazerBlazeR

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[Kruel J]

Is she your best friend? Do you miss her within hours of being at work? I am no expert, but I'm 39, been married once before and somewhat recently found my "soul mate". Relationships are tough and to succeed require a lot of give and take. But imagine a day or a week without her and go with your gut. If you prefer her gone and hanging out with your buddies, its over.

To be clear, are you faithful? Any info left out of your OP?

 

[Burt Gummer]

ound:

Sounds like some female empowerment Oprah nonsense. You will just have to neuter yourself and get on one knee, but I am sure she is worth it. Or you can choose to be a man and set limitations to the BS and prepare to move on. One thing is for sure, if you care more about the relationship than she does, you are already doomed. She is already searching for the next monkey branch. When she finds the next branch - ie a MAN who puts up with no crap - she will gleefully swing on with her life.

 

[billdeserthills]

I gave up on that years ago,
I grew tired of the hurting, which went both ways.
Just don't need it, not for a lil' bit of sex.

 

[OLDNEWBIE]

If no kids are involved get out while you can.

 

[Kid@Heart]

Times have been tough lately on my homefront, so I have been devoting some time to reset the foundation for love. Through my research i have found out about "IMAGO Relationship Therapy", has anyone heard of this type of therapy or had any experience. The Dr. who created the program has a book out by the name of "Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples" which is the basis of this therapy. I inted on going to Powells tomorrow and picking it up to give us more resources to work through these trying times. This past week has been a true test of my resolve, and I feel so far I am putting my best foot forward but want to give myself all the ammunition to succeed. If anyone has any advice, words of encouragement, or know of any great relationship therapist in Portland please let me know.

-LazerBlazeR

Surrender

 

[Redcap]

Drop and hook.

 

[duginsky]

How does this end up on a firearms forum? Last place to seek advice for a healthy relationship. Talk to some physically present and trusted friends instead of an imaginary community. If this poses a challenge, reconsider a mature relationship.

 

[Redcap]

How does this end up on a firearms forum? Last place to seek advice for a healthy relationship. Talk to some physically present and trusted friends instead of an imaginary community. If this poses a challenge, reconsider a mature relationship.

Considering this post is in the Off-Topic forum, seems like the right place. Derp derp derp.

 

[duginsky]

Considering this post is in the Off-Topic forum, seems like the right place. Derp derp derp.

I'm heading over to the Heartache 101 forum and asking about 9mm 147 gr hollow-point ballistics, then! Redcap, you're letting your sensitive side shine on, bless your heart!

 

[RVTECH]

Some good points were brought up here with Burt's probably being the most acute

One thing is for sure, if you care more about the relationship than she does, you are already doomed.

Putting this another way are you both in this relationship equally or does one of you feel like you are in it 'alone'?

 

[Redcap]

I'm heading over to the Heartache 101 forum and asking about 9mm 147 gr hollow-point ballistics, then! Redcap, you're letting your sensitive side shine on, bless your heart!

Oh jesus...I shot Coke out of my nose at that!

Well played, sir. Well played.

 

[teflon6string]

However it goes, treat her with the same respect you would appreciate from others. Then you don't have to second-guess yourself later for stuff you can't take back.

Last time I checked, this gun forum has an OFF-TOPIC section where you can post whatever the hell you want to.

Good luck in achieving what you both want.

 

[Kimber Custom]

I respectfully disagree with most of the opinions posted so far.

Marriage is hard and requires a great deal of sacrifice. A 'loveless' relationship can be salvaged even if only one person is committed. No issues are insurmountable.

The first question you have to ask yourself is: is divorce an option. If the answer is yes then go ahead and get it over with. That is the simpler route and better to start now and begin the healing process.

If it is not: then it's time to roll up your sleeves and start looking at what you are going to do instead. The only person you can change is you. Period, end of story. What are *you* going to do to make it better? Are you going to court her like you did when you were 'in-love'? Are you going to make the hard choices to treat her with respect and love? Are you going to win her back?

Before some of these divorced/single guys jump on me about being a doormat that doesn't mean you don't set good boundaries for what is a healthy relationship but it is far from over if you are willing to put in the hard work. I sent you a PM and would be happy to share my experience with you.

 

[Redcap]

Marriage: betting someone half your sh!t that they won't take half your sh!t.

 

[drew]

Marriage: betting someone half your sh!t that they won't take half your sh!t.

That's what prenuptial agreements are designed to prevent. People want to believe marriage is truly romantic but it is a legally binding contract. Always look out for Number 1. That person who "loves" you may or may not care about your interests today or at some point in the future.

Granted, if you start talking prenup it will chase of a lot of gold diggers.

 

[RVTECH]

The first question you have to ask yourself is: is divorce an option.

Suggesting divorce is an 'option' is saying it is negotiable, and that it is being considered equally by both parties and can possibly be averted by an agreement, much like a business. While this may be true in very few cases most of the time one or the other (and usually the wife) is the one filing proactively and has no intent of reconciling the marriage. Most relationships are over long before the divorce and this further complicates any attempt at reconciliation.

 

[Velzey]

I would not ask anyone on this forum anything about personal life. Seriously

There is 5 or 6 pages of these forum members bickering about "bigfoot", jesus, military service, and something about boondocks.... And not Veritas Aequitas type!

 

[RVTECH]

Blame me - I opened my big 'keyboard' about online dating.

 

[Velzey]

Wait I forgot to mention flip flops also! Which I am wearing right now!