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I start this by a preface of: if it is a no no topic, close. If we are good: I thank you all, there is a LOT of wisdom on this board.
I am not looking for sympathy. Nope none what so ever. Looking for a definitive answer because... well... I'm at my wits end with this bubblegum.
If you know do tell, if you know who does know... I need to know the answer to one question.
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If two people who have legal guardianship (grandparents of the child) cannot agree where the child should live, can either of the parents (who have nothing negative in their lives to prevent them from having the child) take the child since one grandparent says yes to allow the child to live with them while the other does not.
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Backstory:
I was 17 when my son was born. Guardianship was given to his grandparents (my parents), so he could be on their insurance and not on Oregon Health Plan. Deal was made when either of us (me or his bio-mom) were stable we could have him. Childs grandparents have since been divorced, both of which still have guardianship. Child is now 13. I have been fighting for him for the last 9 years. I have not had the finances to take this to court. Basically, there is nothing legally in my life that should prevent either of my parents from releasing their guardianship. My father says "Take the boy", while the other 1/12374th of my life says: "I'm a bubblegum and I won't let you have him because I want control over you". So since I have allowed one of the childs grandparents to burn the bridge with me in their life I could care less and have removed them from my life (except the dealing with them to pickup/drop off child). He has had issues where he goes to school and has had to be home schooled, has had CUTTING issues, was turned against me at one point, manipulated, and verbally abused. Once when I went to pick him up 6 years ago the police were called because she spoke over the phone to the BCSO dispatch about "his father is here and is trying to take him.. I have guardianship.." There were 2 cars that showed up at the house and another 3 that were covering all of the exit routes from the property.
So legally, where is the standpoint?
Two legal guardians who are split on where the child should be........................ Any recourse to me if I just don't return him........ I'm sick of not having my son living with us.
If you are a lawyer, and require a fee, what's your rate? Looking for a legal precident to have for reference.
I am not looking for sympathy. Nope none what so ever. Looking for a definitive answer because... well... I'm at my wits end with this bubblegum.
If you know do tell, if you know who does know... I need to know the answer to one question.
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If two people who have legal guardianship (grandparents of the child) cannot agree where the child should live, can either of the parents (who have nothing negative in their lives to prevent them from having the child) take the child since one grandparent says yes to allow the child to live with them while the other does not.
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Backstory:
I was 17 when my son was born. Guardianship was given to his grandparents (my parents), so he could be on their insurance and not on Oregon Health Plan. Deal was made when either of us (me or his bio-mom) were stable we could have him. Childs grandparents have since been divorced, both of which still have guardianship. Child is now 13. I have been fighting for him for the last 9 years. I have not had the finances to take this to court. Basically, there is nothing legally in my life that should prevent either of my parents from releasing their guardianship. My father says "Take the boy", while the other 1/12374th of my life says: "I'm a bubblegum and I won't let you have him because I want control over you". So since I have allowed one of the childs grandparents to burn the bridge with me in their life I could care less and have removed them from my life (except the dealing with them to pickup/drop off child). He has had issues where he goes to school and has had to be home schooled, has had CUTTING issues, was turned against me at one point, manipulated, and verbally abused. Once when I went to pick him up 6 years ago the police were called because she spoke over the phone to the BCSO dispatch about "his father is here and is trying to take him.. I have guardianship.." There were 2 cars that showed up at the house and another 3 that were covering all of the exit routes from the property.
So legally, where is the standpoint?
Two legal guardians who are split on where the child should be........................ Any recourse to me if I just don't return him........ I'm sick of not having my son living with us.
If you are a lawyer, and require a fee, what's your rate? Looking for a legal precident to have for reference.