I would like to go waaaaaaay off topic and get some ideas on how to motivate my boys to each do their ONE daily chore, then properly reward them for said chore. The almost 15yr old's chore is to do the dishes once or twice a day as necessary using a dishwasher. The almost 11yr old's chore is to spend a few minutes each day cleaning the kids/guest bathroom.
With my work schedule I'm not around much when the kids are home from school and my wife is too soft to make our boys do anything. I have tried several methods of assigning chores with a corresponding reward(s) for a week of completed chores. Neither the 14 or 10 y/o ever gets more than 3 days of chores done in any given week.
We have the monetary means to consistently reward them with just about anything kids those ages would want to do, and they know this, but would rather do no chores and have no rewards rather than each do their respective chore, and get rewarded accordingly.
Are all kids this lazy? Have I done something horribly wrong in parenting to make them this way? Any ideas would be appreciated. Should I change the system so that they are rewarded after 4 days instead of 7, then gradually work back up to 7 day schedule? Please help
P.S. I do take my boys out camping, shooting, laser tag, go carting, etc. Just because I don't want them to miss out on these things, not because they 'earned' it.
With my work schedule I'm not around much when the kids are home from school and my wife is too soft to make our boys do anything. I have tried several methods of assigning chores with a corresponding reward(s) for a week of completed chores. Neither the 14 or 10 y/o ever gets more than 3 days of chores done in any given week.
We have the monetary means to consistently reward them with just about anything kids those ages would want to do, and they know this, but would rather do no chores and have no rewards rather than each do their respective chore, and get rewarded accordingly.
Are all kids this lazy? Have I done something horribly wrong in parenting to make them this way? Any ideas would be appreciated. Should I change the system so that they are rewarded after 4 days instead of 7, then gradually work back up to 7 day schedule? Please help
P.S. I do take my boys out camping, shooting, laser tag, go carting, etc. Just because I don't want them to miss out on these things, not because they 'earned' it.