i was reflecting on a thought i have had for years, and even discussed with my wife at times. When i die i want to be placed on a funeral pyre and burned , much like the vikings, lest the sea. Once i am consumed, my remaining ashes to be placed by a fir or cedar, (my favorite trees) and in essence live forever through being risen into the air, and being consumed through the tree and dispersed through its leaves, and the birds eat the seeds and so on and so on etc. But it was sad to hear my wifes rebuttal." you cant do that." Why the f*&^ not? We have gotten so entrenched in being ruled and brow beaten, it's in our very veins and it doesn't appear till we have an abstract idea or thought. I refuse to be processed as the STATE wants or anyone else. I should be able to ask for my last wishes be honored and the state, feds, officials be damned. I am free, born free, and will stay free. Any thoughts on this or your own wishes?
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How about a compromise of neatly stacked firewood around the cremation furnace (albeit at a safe distance)?
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One of the best 'final' scenes ever in a movie....and because NO words were spoken..
Unless you set yourself on fire, you're still depending on others to carry out your wishes. So getting them to agree ahead of time, and avoid any legal entanglements [whatever that may be] kind of leaves the burden of research and arrangements to you.
My dad wasn't interested in cremation until he found out what it cost for a casket and embalming. So I got him to prepay for cremation, and kept his ashes with my moms until all family members were back in the country. As a veteran the rest of was taken care of. I made the box that held his ashes out of teak, as a nod to his Navy service in WWII.
His last wishes, when I visited him eight days before he died, was to be friendly and encouraging to the staff in the nursing home to the day he died. He reminded me, for the umpteenth time, that they only got minimum pay and had to put up with grumpy old people. While he lamented his physical deterioration [at 91], he was determined to find something pleasant to say to everyone that entered his room and tell them how much he appreciated the care they provided. He gave me a lot of reasons in life to be proud of him, but it was the last few weeks of life that really showed the quality of his character.
My dad wasn't interested in cremation until he found out what it cost for a casket and embalming. So I got him to prepay for cremation, and kept his ashes with my moms until all family members were back in the country. As a veteran the rest of was taken care of. I made the box that held his ashes out of teak, as a nod to his Navy service in WWII.
His last wishes, when I visited him eight days before he died, was to be friendly and encouraging to the staff in the nursing home to the day he died. He reminded me, for the umpteenth time, that they only got minimum pay and had to put up with grumpy old people. While he lamented his physical deterioration [at 91], he was determined to find something pleasant to say to everyone that entered his room and tell them how much he appreciated the care they provided. He gave me a lot of reasons in life to be proud of him, but it was the last few weeks of life that really showed the quality of his character.
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I will not be buried in a hole & left to rot. I'll be cremated and my ashes will be spread in areas that I have loved, meaning certain hunting grounds, streams, lakes, rivers and the sea.
I will build 3 Urns before my time is done, one for the wife, Son & Daughter.
I will build 3 Urns before my time is done, one for the wife, Son & Daughter.
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I have all my life wondered about the pomp and all for this. I guess for those who want it, well fine. I have long told Wife. Cheapest option available. Right now that's burn. Do what you want with ashes. I tell her if she takes the insurance money and spends it on some lavish funeral I will find some way to come back and haunt her
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This was a great post. I will try to remember this if I end up in some care home for my last days. Hope I can be just like your Dad was if I get the chance.
When my friend passed way in '08 from colon cancer, the funeral home set up a display of caskets for sale in their fancy showroom.
When I escorted his grieving widow into the display room, all they had on hand was a pink colored casket and the fanciest one imaginable.
To make it even more expensive, it had a bunch of corner emblems embossed with the Marine logo on them.
Inside the lid was a 12" Marine flag embossed into the lining.
My late friend had been a Marine but he hated the experience and never said anything good about it.
My problem was the blatant manipulation of chalking up the funeral home prices by the supposedly caring sales staff.
I expect sales tactics like that from Ron Tonkin, not a funeral home. Talk about kicking someone when they're down.
When I escorted his grieving widow into the display room, all they had on hand was a pink colored casket and the fanciest one imaginable.
To make it even more expensive, it had a bunch of corner emblems embossed with the Marine logo on them.
Inside the lid was a 12" Marine flag embossed into the lining.
My late friend had been a Marine but he hated the experience and never said anything good about it.
My problem was the blatant manipulation of chalking up the funeral home prices by the supposedly caring sales staff.
I expect sales tactics like that from Ron Tonkin, not a funeral home. Talk about kicking someone when they're down.
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The whole movie would have been better if no words had been spoken in it.
Did you see that? Richard Greer done set that gerbil on fire!!
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My Dad's ashes were divided between my Stepmom and me.
I placed Dad's ashes in the hole my wife and I dug for a Persian Iron Wood tree we have in the front yard.
The tree provides shade for our dogs , cats , neighbor cats and as its a gnarly type of tree it has loads of character.
Which is perfect as Dad liked trees , cats , dogs and had plenty of quality character.
Andy
I placed Dad's ashes in the hole my wife and I dug for a Persian Iron Wood tree we have in the front yard.
The tree provides shade for our dogs , cats , neighbor cats and as its a gnarly type of tree it has loads of character.
Which is perfect as Dad liked trees , cats , dogs and had plenty of quality character.
Andy
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So.....NONE of you guys are going to have throats of your favorite stag hounds, horses whatever cut and thrown onto the pyre with you??? This is one sad state of affairs.
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I've thought about have my ashes mixed with black powder and having folks shoot me out of my favorite rifle...
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Ms. Teflon and I both plan to sprinkle each other's ashes in any of the local waterfalls we enjoy hiking, maybe a few. You know, pleasant memories of healthy times, back to the earth, etc.
So, in one sense, what remains is to see who goes first. I guess now that I've retired (supposedly with more time to take care of things - but actually never busier), I should convey this mutual wish to our adult kids to make sure the script is played out somewhat faithfully if old age and decrepitude interfere with the execution (of our plan).
I'd hate to be in the news - "Geezer in sporty electric wheelchair tumbles from cliff at Falls Creek with wife's ashes."
So, in one sense, what remains is to see who goes first. I guess now that I've retired (supposedly with more time to take care of things - but actually never busier), I should convey this mutual wish to our adult kids to make sure the script is played out somewhat faithfully if old age and decrepitude interfere with the execution (of our plan).
I'd hate to be in the news - "Geezer in sporty electric wheelchair tumbles from cliff at Falls Creek with wife's ashes."
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On a serious note guys and gals...
Plan ahead to some degree. If you have the resources now to arrange for your own disposal (frankly), that takes the burden of expensive/regretful snap decisions off of your survivors on your big day.
It sickens me to think about the upselling that goes on at some funeral homes - "Mrs. Schmedlap, don't you think your wonderful husband, rest his soul, deserves a $12,000 hand-burnished Tennessee Cedar casket with a lovely hunting scene mural inside? And what says 'We'll miss you Dad,' like a parade of a dozen limousines? Sign right here..."
My folks made simple plans and paid for them in advance, so no emotional decisions had to be pondered on the day my dad passed. It had been considered, arranged and economically paid for. He's where they both want to end up, and she'll join him there at some point.
Plan ahead to some degree. If you have the resources now to arrange for your own disposal (frankly), that takes the burden of expensive/regretful snap decisions off of your survivors on your big day.
It sickens me to think about the upselling that goes on at some funeral homes - "Mrs. Schmedlap, don't you think your wonderful husband, rest his soul, deserves a $12,000 hand-burnished Tennessee Cedar casket with a lovely hunting scene mural inside? And what says 'We'll miss you Dad,' like a parade of a dozen limousines? Sign right here..."
My folks made simple plans and paid for them in advance, so no emotional decisions had to be pondered on the day my dad passed. It had been considered, arranged and economically paid for. He's where they both want to end up, and she'll join him there at some point.
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Oh I agree - but the final scene was befitting of a much better movie.
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I am gonna have my ashes put in a coffee can and my wife can use them when she gets her rig stuck on ice. Helpful, even when dead.
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