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People get funny when they "don't have" and let scarcity drive their lives. I've had a couple experiences where someone died and I saw my family's really crappy sides exposed because they were in desperate financial situations. It took a while but I was able to get past it, and so did they.
Be true to yourself and don't put anyone on the permanent ignore list because of it. In my situation, the problem turned out to be how I dealt with it that made for a toxic wedge between us. Once I was able to dissolve that, everything got better. We still don't regularly vacation together or hang out for fun, but a call every couple weeks is now possible and mutually appreciated.
It's kind of a turn the other cheek kind of thing; I did it and it didn't kill me.
-Dean
Be true to yourself and don't put anyone on the permanent ignore list because of it. In my situation, the problem turned out to be how I dealt with it that made for a toxic wedge between us. Once I was able to dissolve that, everything got better. We still don't regularly vacation together or hang out for fun, but a call every couple weeks is now possible and mutually appreciated.
It's kind of a turn the other cheek kind of thing; I did it and it didn't kill me.
-Dean