Hi. I am like the GF. We have made it this far with our own personal defenses. We are proud of them. They may have failed at some point but we survived & we are proud of that too. Nothing has changed for women. Guns are a modern invention. We consider ourselves well armed. When i lived next to the projects it never occurred to me to carry a gun. I had a knife up my sleeve. Why dont you get a Ruger 10 22 & do some target shooting with her? This is my first time posting here so i am probably doing it wrong. Apologies.