So my girlfriends brother is going thru this kinda thing now where he just had a baby with his now ex. And she quits her job and files for state assistance, and wants him to have to pay too. I wont get too much into all that tho... Basicly what he wants is to be able to see his kid without her approval or just when its convinent for her. thats the way she is now. She wont agree to a parenting plan, other than you can have him when i have to go to work... How does it work going to court and trying to get joint custody ? Anyone been thru it and know the court costs? Do you need a lawyer ? He just dosnt want to only get to see his kid every other weekend and have to pay out the butt for the next eighteen years... and shes just not cooperating.