Carrying Into Someone's Home

[The Nothing]

Oh, this thread is bringing flashbacks to about 6 weeks ago...

My wife tells me one day that we'll be going to my daughter's "new friends" house for a pumpkin carving party. My wife had met them all a couple weeks prior at a neighborhood event, but I had not.
Great.
I opted to carry lightly with just a pocket 380 and spare mag.
We head over, the house is all decked out for Halloween, pretty sweet, complete with spiderwebs, spiders, and Hillary and Black Lives Matter campaign signs. Pretty damn scary place.
I did my best to remain comfortable. These were certainly not the folks I would hang out with. I went to the bathroom only to find some sort of anti-gun posters on the door. Yes, the door to the bathroom.
Great, really not my people.
We had a great time, the kids ran outside to pick out pumpkins that they grew. We carved them up, then I drove the hosting wife to a local restaurant were we picked up dinner and went back and all ate together.
We finished up after a couple hours and went home.
Had a lot of fun. All with something they hate right next to them the whole day.

 

[etrain16]

Oh, this thread is bringing flashbacks to about 6 weeks ago...

My wife tells me one day that we'll be going to my daughter's "new friends" house for a pumpkin carving party. My wife had met them all a couple weeks prior at a neighborhood event, but I had not.
Great.
I opted to carry lightly with just a pocket 380 and spare mag.
We head over, the house is all decked out for Halloween, pretty sweet, complete with spiderwebs, spiders, and Hillary and Black Lives Matter campaign signs. Pretty damn scary place.
I did my best to remain comfortable. These were certainly not the folks I would hang out with. I went to the bathroom only to find some sort of anti-gun posters on the door. Yes, the door to the bathroom.
Great, really not my people.
We had a great time, the kids ran outside to pick out pumpkins that they grew. We carved them up, then I drove the hosting wife to a local restaurant were we picked up dinner and went back and all ate together.
We finished up after a couple hours and went home.
Had a lot of fun. All with something they hate right next to them the whole day.

Wait, how is that possible? You're a hateful, murdering, bigoted gun owner! They should all be dead by now!

It would be fun, if you got to know them better down the road, to let them know you're a gun owner - maybe not tell them you carried in their home, but maybe invite them to shoot some day If they object, you can ask them why they they have any concerns when they were fine with you up to that point...

 

[Sgt Nambu]

I would not even mention it. I never do! I carry everywhere, malls, churches, your mom's!


BTW, perhaps I'm crazy, but I think that not mentioning that I'm packing is the respectful as well as the smoothest way to go.

 

[mkwerx]

I happen to find myself routinely in folks homes and on their property for work - the subject never comes up. It's not like I'm going to fart around with taking the gun on and off all day every time I get in and out of my truck. I carry to protect me - I don't know the people I'm meeting, don't know their backgrounds, their mental history, etc. My pistol stays concealed and a non-issue.

As for friends homes - my real friends know I own guns, and that I carry. Acquaintances - see above. If they find out somehow that I'm armed and have an issue, I'll leave no questions asked. But anything short of someone asking/telling me to leave verbally, I ignore and/or avoid.

I don't inform people I'm carrying, and the only ones who will receive an honest answer would be an on-duty police officer, if I were contacted for some reason. No one else needs to know, until an emergency comes up and it makes an appearance.

 

[Riot]

My wife used to feel the need to tell people that I had a gun on me...even would at times ask me to take it off in areas that were legal to carry -but because the policy forebode the possession of weapons- she would ask me to not carry the firearm in.

I have had to have several looong talks with the wife about the fact that I will always carry a firearm to ensure the safety of myself and her (especially since we now have kids) and that I really don't care how anyone feels about it.

Do you tell people that you have a knife in your pocket? Then why would you tell anyone that you carry a gun (unless you are including them with some type of emergency response plan)?

 

[The Heretic]

IMO, it is none of their business whether I have a firearm on my person or not, whether I own a firearm or not, whether I shoot firearms or not, anymore than what my religion is, who I vote for, or anything along those lines.

That said, I usually do not carry a concealed firearm - it is just a very rare circumstance that I feel the need to. If I felt I had to in order to protect my family, then I would and again, it would be nobody else's business that I did.

 

[Koda]

My opinion is to ask permission "whenever possible".

There are many safety reasons why it might not be possible, then don't. Other than that, if I'm not comfortable asking permission, then leave it at home or in the car (unless thats not safely possible...). I have some friends who are anti-gun, and some who are simply not gun owners and don't really know where they stand on the issue... and would never bring one in any house purposely without permission, out of respect.... whenever possible. They don't live in a place or host events where I might need a gun inside their home otherwise I wouldn't go there at all. If I'm invited to someones house I don't know well enough I will plan on leaving it at home or in the car... "whenever possible".

 

[Glock Jock]

Whats in my wallet and in my pants are my business and I don't make a habit of simply showing people to make them feel better.

 

[The Heretic]

The subject just never comes up with me.

Being a recluse I rarely visit anybody at their home.

Those people I do visit are almost always my family and most of them have their own firearms (some are LEOs).

I almost never carry concealed.

I generally do not go places where I feel the need to carry a firearm for self-defense.

If someone made it clear to me that firearms are not allowed on the premises, then either I don't go there if I feel I would need to carry, or I don't carry (such as at work where it is verboten - it would result in instant termination and escorting off the premises).

 

[Stomper]

I'm a married man.... I do what I WANT!
















Yeah.... I know.

 

[nwslopoke]

Whats in my wallet and in my pants are my business and I don't make a habit of simply showing people to make them feel better.

I agree. But the flip side is showing respect to "friends", the people you actually care about. Keep it in your pants. Some people have a reason to their beliefs in their home.

 

[oknow]

What do you do when you see a no gun sign at a store with no metal detector? That should be the same answer at someones house concealed is concealed.........

 

[teflon6string]

Although some of my relatives are totally anti-2A and think all gun owners are Eugene Tackleberry, the subject of personal packing in each other's homes has never come up. (Which. IMHO, is strong testimonial to keeping one's mouth shut and not trying to rub the noses of sheep in something they're not equipped to think about objectively.)

But now this thread has made me curious. And I wonder what their reactions would be if I brought it up, even philosophically on neutral turf.

 

[Koda]

But now this thread has made me curious. And I wonder what their reactions would be if I brought it up, even philosophically on neutral turf.

I wouldn't. That kinda nullifies "concealed means concealed".... its a big can o worms and there is no neutral turf when it comes to politics.

 

[Alexx1401]

What is the etiquette on (concealed) carrying your gun into a house you're a guest of? Gun rights beliefs of the owner notwithstanding. Is it considered rude to not tell them? Polite to ask or inform?

If it's someone who knows me at all they know how I feel. I doubt they would need to ask as they know. If I do not know them well I just would not mention it of course. If they know me and asked me not to I would treat their house just like any business that did the same, not enter.

 

[ikemay]

I don't say anything. Even when the conversation turns a little political and they go all anti-gun on me. Though I feel like telling them that for the past however many years they've known me I have always carried like at that very moment in fact. Their heads would probably pop off, and they'd fly around like a popped balloon making a funny fart sound. Hmmmm, might be fun.

 

[Goosebrown]

I have kids and if I don't know you real well I would want to know if you're carrying. Accidents happen and kids are kids. I'd be happier if you carried but left the gun unloaded in my house just in case the gun were dropped or some other really weird or unforeseen event happened.

 

[teflon6string]

I wouldn't. That kinda nullifies "concealed means concealed".... its a big can o worms and there is no neutral turf when it comes to politics.

Agreed completely. It might well set a precedent for them to ask, or say something. We differ enough on so many other topics that I don't want to add that to the mix.

My GF told me once that "friends are the family you get to choose."

Blood relatives on the other hand...

 

[oknow]

Agreed completely. It might well set a precedent for them to ask, or say something. We differ enough on so many other topics that I don't want to add that to the mix.

My GF told me once that "friends are the family you get to choose."

Blood relatives on the other hand...

Smart gal

 

[teflon6string]

Of course she is!