I mean no offense to you, so please look past anything that may sound rude in text here, but how old are you and why do you need strangers on the interwebz to help with this moral dilemma? (rhetorical)
Respectfully....I feel like there are friends here, and I ask friends for input with difficult decisions. As I said above, I may have to go through something like this in the future. There is help for others in this thread too.
Mike